jade in the parke

Sunday, November 13, 2011

We're on the fence

****Fence section written Saturday afternoon, 11/12*****

What does "We're on the fence mean anyway".

Well looking at it literally, it means being on top of the fence slats.  Lean one way and fall over to one side or lean the other with the same results.

How about a "Carpe Diem" approach: Standing on the fence and looking at both sides to see where you want to jump.  

Or how about you are on the fence and stuck because your pants are caught on a post and you are dependent on Someone to release  you.  It sounds weak, but weakness or coming to the end of our strength is sort of where we need to be (Thanks Tim via Allen).

Well, I kind of feel that way.  We're recovering nicely on one hand, but there is a fence we are on and we could go to one side or the other.  

The Case manager who I spoke to the day before surgery, let me know everything would be arranged and she would touch base with me on Friday.  It didn't happen. Then she was off for the weekend with no plan for getting the hospital bed and special wheelchair delivered which means she can't come home until this is done. There is no social worker (except one in the ER) and no case managers in the hospital over the weekend, so our nurse was wonderful and started getting on the horn to arrange it herself. 

Our next hurdle: Carseat harness to allow Abby to sit sideways on the bench seat.  It's locked up in the social workers' office. Not worried about this one.

I left Saturday night so glad Abby is hitting the markers physically to come home but frustrated that there was no plan in place.
**Written Sunday 11/13****

During rounds this morning the surgeon would like Abby to come home and Abby is nervous about doing so as she has only sat up once and felt really dizzy.  The Physical Therapist wasn't able to stop by yesterday but the Occupational Therapist was fabulous.  On Sunday there are no therapists.  So we need to have her sitting up and transferring to a wheelchair by today which sounds easy on paper.  By God's grace I am telling myself.

Just got a phone call:  Meredith, the nurse, came through! We are getting a bed and wheelchair delivered to our house today!  Will update as I know more!

Justin was so sweet to stay at the hospital last night so I can rest.  Joshua will come home today and the girls are here.  Please pray for our family to be refreshed, have rest and love one another deeply.  Thank you for your continued support and concern!

Please leave comments for Abby here on the blog or send me an email to jadeintheparke@gmail.com and I will forward it to her.

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


  1. Hi i am with u in this hour and wish speedy recovery to Abby. All the best. Nittoo india

  2. Hi Abby, Your Aunt Paula (actually YOUR Great Aunt Paula) here, Isn't it funny how the things you will need to have in order to heal don't weigh you down at all: love, you have a lot of that coming your way from family and friends; strength (it ranks right up there with taking your vitamins every day) is not brute force is about getting through tough times; faith which allows you to see the bigger picture on why you're going through this whole surgery thing in the first place; and joy. I know from reading your mom and dad's remarks about you that joy fills a big part of your heart. So there's only one word I can use to describe you: WOW! I wish you a very speedy recovery. Love, AP

  3. Dear Abby and family,

    "For I know what plans I have in mind for you.'says Adonai,'Plans for well-being, not for bad things; so that you can have hope and a future. When you call to me and pray to me, I will listen to you. When you seek me, you will find me, provided you seek for me whole-heartedly; and I will let you find me,' says Adonai. Jer. 29:11-14

    We will continue to pray for your healing!


    Josiah's family.

  4. Hi Abby and Family! I have been thinking about and praying for you all weekend while I was away at a retreat. Just came home eager to read any updates. Praying the discharge can happen soon and your healing can continue at home. Hang in there! You are an amazing strong young woman--so proud of you!

    Lita, I will call you or text you to see when I/we can come up to visit and bring you a meal. Have one put together for you so hope to come up soon. Only snaffu on our end is that Lilly has a fever. Praying it is only a viral illness, not the infection recurring (finished last round of oral abx this week...)

    Sending love and hugs!

    Amy Bhua

  5. Dear Abby,
    So glad to read this blog and know what has been going on with you and your surgery. Praying for you and look forward to seeing your smiling face soon.

    Miss Hidey

  6. Hey Abby,
    Glad to hear you're on the mend! I'll be praying for a speedy recovery for you, clear and focused minds for all the people working to get you better and safe, and peaceful minds and hearts for your family. God bless!

    ~ Timothy (Xander's brother)

  7. Hi Abby,

    Praying for you sweet girl! Hope you are feeling better each day! Praying you home and healthy! God is so good!

    Miss Barb